I began to look up articles about how to be happy. I began to practice the things I found out about that would help. Meditation, taking time doing things you love, the list can go on and on. But really it's about making a decision, that you are going to do something about your happiness, and taking action on it.
If you've ever heard the expression fake it till you make it. It really can help. Smile, even if you don't feel like it. It will change your body chemistry to start feeding your brain happy hormones. Say no to things that don't serve you anymore. Stop hanging around people who bring you down. If it's a work situation, start looking for a new job if you need to.
If you are unhappy start looking at what needs to change. But make sure you are taking care of the core issues first. Sometimes it's our very own stinking thinking that is causing the issue. I had to really dig deep to figure out what I needed to change about my own self before I started getting happy.
A huge part of my happiness is being grateful. I try to dedicate a part of my day to counting my blessings. It's really hard to be unhappy and grateful at the same time. Even when a steady flow of things are going wrong, if you start looking for the reason to be grateful, your brain will find it. Many times when my life gets difficult, I am able to find life's lessons burried within those situations.
Now instead of looking at something as not fair, or taking the stance of why me, I can look at it and ask myself how can I grow from this situation. When I stopped looking at myself as a victim, it opened up more room for happiness. It didn't mean I wasn't a victim, it just means I let go of hanging on to that attitude. By hanging on to the grudge and hanging on to the hate, I wasn't hurting the perpetrator, I was hurting myself. It doesn't make what happened ok. But it does make it easier to take back control of your life, when you can look at what happened with eyes of curiosity.
What has that got to do with happiness? I know in my life there were lots of times when I got lost in unhappiness, because of being a victim in some way or other. For me, I would get caught up reliving an angry conversation or an accident over and over. I would start thinking of all the things that I could have said or should have said. I had no control of my mind.
In all honesty, the thing that is going to be able to bring you the most happiness in life, is the skill of directing your mind in the ways that will bring happiness. Being able to redirect and change your mind when it is being unhelpful. Knowing that you don't have to believe your own mind about everything. Just because you have a thought doesn't make it true.
I wish you a happy life!
Anyways, Have a Blessed Day
Author
Delila Bishop
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